This verse provides foundational Islamic legislation on the rights and responsibilities surrounding childcare and breastfeeding after divorce or widowhood, emphasizing the child’s welfare, shared parental responsibility, and practical flexibility.
Arabic Text (Verse 2:233)
وَالْوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلَادَهُنَّ حَوْلَيْنِ كَامِلَيْنِ ۖ لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ ۚ وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ لَا تُضَارَّ وَالِدَةٌ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلَا مَوْلُودٌ لَّهُ بِوَلَدِهِ ۚ وَعَلَى الْوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذَٰلِكَ ۗ فَإِنْ أَرَادَا فِصَالًا عَن تَرَاضٍ مِّنْهُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا ۗ وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمْ أَن تَسْتَرْضِعُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذَا سَلَّمْتُم مَّا آتَيْتُم بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۗ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ
Translation (English – Approximate Meaning)
“Mothers may breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who wish to complete the nursing [period]. Upon the father is the mothers’ provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable (al-Ma’ruf). No person is charged with more than his capacity. No mother should be harmed because of her child, nor any father because of his child. And upon the [father’s] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father]. But if they both desire weaning through mutual consent and consultation, there is no blame upon either of them. And if you wish to have your children nursed by a wet-nurse, there is no blame upon you as long as you give payment according to what is acceptable. And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seeing of what you do.”
Explanation & Commentary (Based on Tafheem-ul-Qan)
- The Standard Period and the Mother’s Right:
· “Mothers may breastfeed their children for two full years…” This establishes the complete and recommended period of breastfeeding. The phrasing “لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ” (“for those who wish to complete the nursing”) indicates this is the ideal duration for the child’s optimal physical and emotional development, but it is not an absolute, unbreakable command for every circumstance.
· It is both a right of the child to receive this nourishment and a right of the mother to nurse her child if she wishes and is able.
- The Father’s Financial Responsibility:
· “Upon the father is the mothers’ provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable (al-Ma’ruf).” This is a crucial ruling. Even if the parents are divorced, the father remains solely and fully financially responsible for the maintenance (nafaqah) of the mother for the duration she is breastfeeding his child. This includes her food, clothing, and shelter at a standard commensurate with his means (‘ala al-Ma’ruf). This ensures the mother can focus on childcare without financial distress.
- The Governing Principles of Justice and Capacity:
· “No person is charged with more than his capacity.” This is a universal Islamic legal principle applied here. The father’s financial obligation is according to his means. The mother’s physical burden of nursing is according to her health and capacity.
· “No mother should be harmed because of her child, nor any father because of his child.” This is the core ethical directive of the verse. It forbids:
· A mother from using the child as a tool to inflict financial or emotional hardship on the father.
· A father from neglecting his financial duties, thereby harming the mother and, by extension, the child.
· Any action by either parent that uses the child as a weapon in marital disputes.
- Extending the Responsibility:
· “And upon the [father’s] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father].” If the father dies during this period, his estate and heirs (e.g., the child’s paternal grandfather or uncles) inherit this financial responsibility for the nursing mother and child. The child’s welfare is a collective familial duty.
- Flexibility and Mutual Agreement:
· “But if they both desire weaning through mutual consent and consultation, there is no blame upon either of them.” The two-year period is not rigid. Parents may mutually agree to wean the child earlier, provided it is done through consultation (tashawur) and in the child’s best interest. This allows for adaptability to the mother’s health, the child’s needs, or other valid circumstances.
· “And if you wish to have your children nursed by a wet-nurse, there is no blame upon you…” If the mother cannot or chooses not to breastfeed, hiring a wet-nurse is perfectly permissible. The father’s financial duty remains: he must pay the wet-nurse a fair wage (‘ala al-Ma’ruf). This protects the mother’s choice and ensures the child’s care.
- The Ultimate Sanction: Divine Oversight
· The verse concludes by anchoring these social laws in spiritual consciousness: “And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seeing of what you do.”
· This reminds the parents that their conduct is not merely a contractual matter but an act of worship. Allah observes whether they are cooperating with justice and kindness or succumbing to spite and negligence.
Key Themes from Tafheem-ul-Qan in this Verse:
- The Primacy of the Child’s Welfare: Every ruling—the nursing period, financial support, and flexible weaning—is ultimately framed by what is best for the child’s physical and emotional health.
- Balancing Rights and Responsibilities: The verse meticulously balances the mother’s right to be supported during nursing with the father’s responsibility to provide that support, all while protecting both from harm.
- Practicality and Flexibility within a Framework: Islamic law provides a clear, ideal framework (two years of nursing, father’s financial duty) but builds in essential flexibility (mutual agreement for early weaning, use of wet-nurses) based on consultation and real-world circumstances.
- Family as a Network of Support: The responsibility extends beyond the immediate parents to the father’s heirs, reinforcing the concept of the extended family as a social safety net.
- From Legal Rule to Moral Imperative: The legislation is elevated from mere law to an ethical test, governed by Taqwa (consciousness of Allah) and the knowledge that He is Ever-Watchful.
This verse is a masterpiece of Islamic social legislation, transforming the potentially fraught post-divorce relationship into a structured, ethical partnership focused on the well-being of the most vulnerable party—the child. It exemplifies how Islamic law integrates detailed legal guidance with profound moral principles.