The primacy of the child’s welfare is the lens through which every ruling — nursing duration, financial support, and flexible weaning are designed by Allah
Q1: What is the Arabic text of Verse 2:233, and what does it mean?
A: The Arabic text is:
وَالْوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلَادَهُنَّ حَوْلَيْنِ كَامِلَيْنِ ۖ لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ ۚ وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ لَا تُضَارَّ وَالِدَةٌ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلَا مَوْلُودٌ لَّهُ بِوَلَدِهِ ۚ وَعَلَى الْوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذَٰلِكَ ۗ فَإِنْ أَرَادَا فِصَالًا عَن تَرَاضٍ مِّنْهُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا ۗ وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمْ أَن تَسْتَرْضِعُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذَا سَلَّمْتُم مَّا آتَيْتُم بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۗ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ
Translation: “Mothers may breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who wish to complete the nursing period. Upon the father is the mothers’ provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable (al-Ma’ruf). No person is charged with more than his capacity. No mother should be harmed because of her child, nor any father because of his child. And upon the [father’s] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father]. But if they both desire weaning through mutual consent and consultation, there is no blame upon either of them. And if you wish to have your children nursed by a wet-nurse, there is no blame upon you as long as you give payment according to what is acceptable. And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seeing of what you do.”
Q2: What is the recommended breastfeeding period, and is it compulsory?
A: The verse establishes two full years as the complete and ideal breastfeeding period. However, the phrasing لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ — “for those who wish to complete the nursing” — makes clear that this is the recommended maximum for the child’s optimal physical and emotional development, not an absolute command binding on every family in every circumstance. It is both the child’s right to receive this nourishment and the mother’s right to provide it if she is willing and able.
Q3: Who is financially responsible for the mother during the nursing period, and what does that responsibility cover?
A: The father bears sole and full financial responsibility. Even if the parents are divorced, he must provide the nursing mother with food, clothing, and shelter — all at a standard commensurate with his means, described in the verse as al-Ma’ruf (what is acceptable and reasonable). This ruling, captured in the phrase “upon the father is the mothers’ provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable,” ensures the mother can focus entirely on childcare without falling into financial hardship.
Q4: What does “No person is charged with more than his capacity” mean in this context?
A: This is a universal Islamic legal principle applied here to both parents. The father’s financial obligation is scaled to his actual means — he is not expected to provide beyond what he can reasonably afford. Equally, the mother’s physical duty of nursing is relative to her health and physical capacity. Neither parent is placed under an impossible or unjust burden. Justice, not uniformity, is the standard.
Q5: What does the verse forbid when it says neither parent should be “harmed because of their child”?
A: This is the core ethical directive of the verse. It explicitly forbids three categories of harmful conduct. First, a mother using the child as leverage to extract excessive financial or emotional concessions from the father. Second, a father neglecting his financial duties, thereby harming the mother and, by extension, the child who depends on her. Third — and most broadly — either parent weaponising the child in personal disputes or as a tool of marital conflict. The child’s welfare, not parental grievance, must govern every decision.
Q6: What happens to the father’s financial duties if he dies during the nursing period?
A: The verse states “upon the [father’s] heir is a duty like that of the father.” If the father dies, his estate and heirs — such as the child’s paternal grandfather or uncles — inherit this financial obligation toward the nursing mother and child. This extends childcare responsibility beyond the immediate parents to the wider family, reflecting Islam’s concept of the extended family as a social safety net rather than placing the burden solely on the nuclear unit.
Q7: Can parents agree to wean the child before two years?
A: Yes. The verse explicitly states: “But if they both desire weaning through mutual consent and consultation, there is no blame upon either of them.” Early weaning is permissible provided two conditions are met — it must be a mutual decision reached through genuine consultation (tashawur), and it must genuinely serve the child’s best interest. This flexibility accommodates the mother’s health, the child’s developmental needs, and other real-world circumstances, while preventing either parent from making this decision unilaterally.
Q8: Is hiring a wet-nurse permitted, and what are the financial implications?
A: The verse explicitly permits it: “And if you wish to have your children nursed by a wet-nurse, there is no blame upon you.” If the mother cannot breastfeed or chooses not to, hiring a wet-nurse is perfectly lawful. The father’s financial duty remains fully intact — he must pay the wet-nurse a fair wage, described as al-Ma’ruf. This ruling simultaneously protects the mother’s freedom of choice and guarantees the child’s continued care regardless of circumstance.
Q9: Why does the verse close with a reminder about fearing Allah and His all-seeing awareness?
A: The closing — “And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seeing of what you do” — elevates these social rulings from mere contractual obligations into acts of worship and moral accountability. It reminds both parents that their conduct in these matters is observed by Allah, whether they are cooperating with justice and kindness or acting out of spite and negligence. Taqwa (God-consciousness) becomes the ultimate governing force where human law and oversight may fall short.
Q10: What are the overarching themes of this verse according to Tafheem-ul-Qur’an?
A: Five major themes emerge from Mawdudi’s commentary. The primacy of the child’s welfare is the lens through which every ruling — nursing duration, financial support, and flexible weaning — must be read. The verse carefully balances the mother’s right to be supported with the father’s responsibility to provide it, protecting both from harm. It provides a clear ideal framework while building in practical flexibility through mutual consultation. It extends responsibility to the wider family, reinforcing the extended family as a collective support structure. Finally, it transforms detailed legal legislation into a moral and spiritual imperative, governed by Taqwa and divine oversight. Together, these themes make the verse, as scholars note, a masterpiece of Islamic social legislation — turning a potentially fraught post-divorce relationship into a structured, ethical partnership centred on the most vulnerable party: the child.
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